...suck it up and move on with your Life

At some point you have to make a decision as to what you want to do with your life, since life seems to keep kicking you in the crotch. Do you want to wallow in self-pity and hurt because some people that you thought you could trust hurt your feelings? Do you ball up into a fetal position and cry in the corner? Do you just give up all together? NO. At this point, you toughen up. Suck it up and move on with your life. The people that hurt your precious little feelings aren't thinking about you. Why are you worried about them? Why are you wallowing in self-pity and regret about what could have been? This is the time to realize that you have breath in your body, a reasonable portion of health and strength, and the will/determination to continue on. You can't let situations make you weak. Nothing that was worth having came easy. If life kicks you in the back, spits in your face and knocks you to your knees, wipe off your face and get up.

People seem to always have all the answers about your situation and what you should do with your life. You know what you should say to those people? Point blank, just shut up. They are NOT in your shoes, nor do they know whats going on in your life or what is best for your. Since when did they become God? Why is it that everyone else knows exactly what to do in your situation but can't seem to fix their own? Get out of my face! No one wants to hear your judgemental rants about foolishness. Sweep in front of your own front door.

As for sucking it up and moving on with your life, it IS as easy as it sounds, though hard to believe. Suck up you pain and despair and move on with whatever you need to do to be successful. Don't be discouraged by your current situation, it is temporary. Be positive. In life, you will find that plans often change...

...the humbling experience of being Broken

After experiencing the stinging sensation of true hurt, sometimes it is hard to come to grips with what has just happened to you. That hurt may seem at times to be the death blow, the below the belt hit, or the final nail in the coffin. It feels like you have hit naked rock. The thing that makes the death blow powerful usually isn't the circumstance that you are in, but rather a situation or circumstance that adds to it. Usually it is something that completely blindsides you, totally unexpected. It knocks the wind out of you and leaves you completely stunned.

You may be thinking, what kind of situation or circumstance could possibly deal the death blow? A lot of times, its usually the hurt or disappointment of someone you know and trust letting you down in a situation when you really needed them. We have all been there. Someone tells you that you can depend of them no matter what, through thick and thin. Then you end up in a situation when you need to actually lean on that person, and they run away from you like illegal aliens from immigration. That hurts bad. This is part of the stinging sensation of true hurt, but the beginning of the humbling experience of being broken.

This is the point in life when you realize that you can't truly depend on others or expect them to be there for you when you really need them to be. This is an agonizing hurt and a difficult thing to accept. Family, close friends, church family, will ALL disappoint you sometime in your life, sometimes all at the same time. There are some people who will stick with you through your bad times although they may not always be able to assist you. At some point, you have to make a conscious choice, throw yourself a pity party and give up, or suck it up and move on with your life...

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...the stinging sensation of true Hurt

What happens when you find yourself seemingly alone in this world? What happens when your closest friends and family turn their backs on you and walk out of your life? Do you give up on life? Do you take your anger and frustration out on the world?

It hurts when you finally realize that most of the time people will absolutely NOT back you in your time of need. Most times, it isn't financial backing that you are looking for. Sometimes a kind word, shoulder to lean on, or moral support is all you really need. It’s sad that people who call themselves your friends can't even offer that.

In life, you will find that people will not always come through for you. This is not a movie or fictional book, this is real life, your life. There is no pause button, no edit tape, no superhero to swoop down and save you just in the nick of time. You have yourself, and your own will to make it through whatever life is throwing at you. People will ultimately fail you one way or another. The thing is to not let it get to you, because it WILL happen. Sure its a hard pill to swallow when the people that you thought where closest to you suddenly make an about face out of your life, seemingly when your are going through your worse times.

Life absolutely hurts sometimes. It will kick you in the back, karate chop you in the throat, and go for the jugular. However, that is life, and life happens. The problem, most of the time, isn't the fake friends or family members that threw you under the bus when you needed them the most. That is just the tip of the iceberg. The issues are, deciphering whom or what is inflicting this woefully ill-timed hurt and seemingly insurmountable pain and, how do you deal with it? I find that its the 'dealing with' part that most people have trouble with. Sometimes there is so much coming at you at one time that it is hard to tell what the true issues really are. When thinking about that, choosing to be negative, and hate the earth because people let you down, is always a counterproductive way of handling your frustration.

Answering the previously stated question truthfully can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. It isn’t an easy thing. Most times real life situations can’t be fixed with the snap of a finger, contrary to everyone who is offering up their two cents about your life’s troubles but can’t help you, would lead you to believe. It’s not all about being positive, or keeping a smile on your face, although that helps. It’s not always about praying and waiting for God to fix it, although you should seek God first. It’s a complicated process, but you absolutely can’t begin fixing your situation until you feel the stinging sensation of true hurt……

Please leave your comments about how you feel about this. Part 3 is coming soon.

...the realization of Pain

As children, we had the luxury of being shielded from the real world, its concepts, hurt, pain and despair. We saw things innocently, believed what people told us, especially if they where older. We looked forward to the time when we could go outside and ride our bikes, roller skate, play "it" or Mr. Freeze with our closest friends (primarily the other kids that lived on your block or went to school with.)

Then we got older, and we all were trying to find ourselves in middle and high schools. At some point, we lost some people that we (thought) were our good friends. We really didn't for the most part understand what a friend really was yet. Then there was college, or for most people, the actual real world after school. People suddenly realized that there was a real big unloving, non-caring, ruthless world out there waiting to pounce on them. Some of us moved away, and built new relationships, and some of us clung to what was familiar. It was in that time that I believe most of us found our true friends in life.

At this point, there is more to life than the fresh new Jordan's, or dating the most popular girl/guy in school. This is the place in life where you actually grow up. This is when you suddenly realize that you have bills to pay, responsibilities that need to be met, and issues that sometimes transcend your existence. Sometimes though, when life is busy slapping you in the back, face, and throat, you need one of those people that you call a friend. It could be in the way of moral, emotional, or financial support. Any way support is rendered, it is expected that a friend be there in your time of need.

But what happens when the expected doesn't happen or when a friend disappoints you in some way? What happens when that person or group of people isn't there or is insensitive to your feelings? What do you do when those friends that you are so cool with all of a sudden make an about face and exit stage left?

This is the part where I would like some honest responses from all of you. We have all gone through some disappointing situations with people we know and love. How did you deal with it?

Part 2 of "...the realization of Pain" will be coming soon, after your feedback.