What happens when you find yourself seemingly alone in this world? What happens when your closest friends and family turn their backs on you and walk out of your life? Do you give up on life? Do you take your anger and frustration out on the world?
It hurts when you finally realize that most of the time people will absolutely NOT back you in your time of need. Most times, it isn't financial backing that you are looking for. Sometimes a kind word, shoulder to lean on, or moral support is all you really need. It’s sad that people who call themselves your friends can't even offer that.
In life, you will find that people will not always come through for you. This is not a movie or fictional book, this is real life, your life. There is no pause button, no edit tape, no superhero to swoop down and save you just in the nick of time. You have yourself, and your own will to make it through whatever life is throwing at you. People will ultimately fail you one way or another. The thing is to not let it get to you, because it WILL happen. Sure its a hard pill to swallow when the people that you thought where closest to you suddenly make an about face out of your life, seemingly when your are going through your worse times.
Life absolutely hurts sometimes. It will kick you in the back, karate chop you in the throat, and go for the jugular. However, that is life, and life happens. The problem, most of the time, isn't the fake friends or family members that threw you under the bus when you needed them the most. That is just the tip of the iceberg. The issues are, deciphering whom or what is inflicting this woefully ill-timed hurt and seemingly insurmountable pain and, how do you deal with it? I find that its the 'dealing with' part that most people have trouble with. Sometimes there is so much coming at you at one time that it is hard to tell what the true issues really are. When thinking about that, choosing to be negative, and hate the earth because people let you down, is always a counterproductive way of handling your frustration.
Answering the previously stated question truthfully can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. It isn’t an easy thing. Most times real life situations can’t be fixed with the snap of a finger, contrary to everyone who is offering up their two cents about your life’s troubles but can’t help you, would lead you to believe. It’s not all about being positive, or keeping a smile on your face, although that helps. It’s not always about praying and waiting for God to fix it, although you should seek God first. It’s a complicated process, but you absolutely can’t begin fixing your situation until you feel the stinging sensation of true hurt……
Please leave your comments about how you feel about this. Part 3 is coming soon.
I'd have to agree... this one hit home because it's what I've been dealing with for the past few years especially within the past month. The realization that the people that you want to be there for you, aren't going to or don't care to be there for you is definitely something difficult to deal with. But all gets better with time, especially if there is someone else there to help you out. The only issue is how much you should toughen yourself for the next encounters. It's all trial and error.
ReplyDeleteHmm....this is a very interesting article. I totally agree that if you have problems in your life, it's great to have friends to help you out, but they're human too and they have their own problems and won't always be able to help you when you really need them to and that most often, you have to go through things alone. While it is wonderful to have people by your side, you can't become too dependent on other people to give you what you need and to make you happy. Other people may be there to support you, but if you can't stand up on your own, then you're just putting too much weight on everyone else.
ReplyDeleteDoing things alone can be beneficial in many cases because you may learn more from a certain mistake if it is your own mistake as opposed to if someone is trying to prevent you from making that mistake in the first place.
Ok, that's it. Have a nice day everyone! =)
Very keen take on trials and tribulation. I like the concept. Great writing approach, by the way. Keep it going...
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