As children, we had the luxury of being shielded from the real world, its concepts, hurt, pain and despair. We saw things innocently, believed what people told us, especially if they where older. We looked forward to the time when we could go outside and ride our bikes, roller skate, play "it" or Mr. Freeze with our closest friends (primarily the other kids that lived on your block or went to school with.)
Then we got older, and we all were trying to find ourselves in middle and high schools. At some point, we lost some people that we (thought) were our good friends. We really didn't for the most part understand what a friend really was yet. Then there was college, or for most people, the actual real world after school. People suddenly realized that there was a real big unloving, non-caring, ruthless world out there waiting to pounce on them. Some of us moved away, and built new relationships, and some of us clung to what was familiar. It was in that time that I believe most of us found our true friends in life.
At this point, there is more to life than the fresh new Jordan's, or dating the most popular girl/guy in school. This is the place in life where you actually grow up. This is when you suddenly realize that you have bills to pay, responsibilities that need to be met, and issues that sometimes transcend your existence. Sometimes though, when life is busy slapping you in the back, face, and throat, you need one of those people that you call a friend. It could be in the way of moral, emotional, or financial support. Any way support is rendered, it is expected that a friend be there in your time of need.
But what happens when the expected doesn't happen or when a friend disappoints you in some way? What happens when that person or group of people isn't there or is insensitive to your feelings? What do you do when those friends that you are so cool with all of a sudden make an about face and exit stage left?
This is the part where I would like some honest responses from all of you. We have all gone through some disappointing situations with people we know and love. How did you deal with it?
Part 2 of "...the realization of Pain" will be coming soon, after your feedback.
Well, of course I've dealt with disappointment of friends and family. I tend to disconnect my spirit. I even wrote a blog about it! We individually learn what works with the universe.
ReplyDeleteI am really feeling this...i can relate speaking that most of my has been to please others. I mean when i was in school I used to have to buy my friends...now i do things for people cause i enjoy seeing others happy even sometimes at the expense of my own happiness. I cant say I have fully gotten over alot of it cause when u dont get what u have given and expect back alot of times it leaves u feeling USED! Especially when u only recieve phone calls when u are needed and never for reasonings of merely saying hi, how are you? Ya feel me. So I definately know how u feel jug...just keep ya head up cause thats what im trying to do myself! Love ya bestie
ReplyDeleteIts safe to say that Ive been in the same situation as well. And the sad part is with a child. But i have learned over the years that Freeing myself from the ugliness of the world included deleting people out of my life. Those people included friends, family, associates. I truly believe in the saying "its better to be alone then in bad company" Even if the bad company is someone you hold dear to heart. Its finding yourself and realizing that not everyone is who you thinkg they are or how they make themselves out to be. True friends are very limited. And will naver fail you even when they are having a tough season as well. Remember God never give you anything you can not handle. He is working on making you stronger. Maybe even giving you a chance to get rid of the leaves, and loose branches and shurbs that are filling your garden. Clean them out and he will continue to guide you, love you and bless you like always. God Is Good. Missingin you here at home. <3 YOu! M.Vargas
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