...be careful of who you confide in. Everyone isn't always who they claim to Be

Be careful who you confide in. Everyone isn't who you think they are. Sad but true. This is true for just about everyone who comes into your life, friends family members, girlfriends/boyfriends, pastors etc. At some point in the time you have had an encounter with someone that you thought you could trust, and they let you down in some way. You told them something in confidence, or trusted them in some way. The next thing you know, the earth knows your business or they have just broken that trust bond. Maybe you confided in someone and they used what you told them against you in an argument or spewed your business at an inappropriate time or place. It doesn't feel nice to suddenly know that others know what you told someone in confidence.

You may ask yourself, how did I end up in this situation in the first place? To start, you talked too much. Secondly, you talked too much to the wrong person or group of people. I know some of you will say, "well I only confide in those closest to me". To that statement, I say, silly people, don't you realize that those that are closest to you are the ones that always hurt you the most? Let me dive into this a little. Some people are opportunists. They want you to tell them all your business so that they can use it against you at at later date, (IE: an angry girlfriend/boyfriend or coworker) Some people pretend to be things that they are not to try to get close to you and know all your business because they have ulterior motives. When they discover that you are not what they thought you were, or find out that you have nothing to offer them they move on, sometimes telling all of your personal business as they make their exit stage right.

Now there are the people that blindside you. Everyone isn't out to tell all of your deepest darkest secrets, but they can hurt you just the same. Have you ever put your trust in someone only to be let down real hard? For instance, your dating someone and find out that they cheated on you. You begin attending church and you start hanging with that good ole' sanctified soul, only to find out that they were 'less than sanctified' and had ulterior motives? We've all had a friend that said that they'd be there through thick and thin, but turns out they were only there when it was convenient for them. How about that person who was always around while you were on top of the world, but when things changed, they ran away from you like day from night. These are the types of situations that seem to be common. We allow people into the most personal places in our lives only to have our feelings violated. That's what it feels like.

How do we get into these situations you might ask? Well we put too much trust into people. We put people up on pedestals that they don't deserve to be on. Just because your a celebrity, pastor, teacher, singer, counselor, police officer etc; doesn't mean that you get automatic trust and mountains of respect. Everyone should be on an even playing field. God should be the only one you ever slap up on a pedestal. People are fallible. Often times we forget that. You have to remember that some people are out for personal gain. Sometimes that means destroying the next person to achieve that goal. You will find that everyone who tells you that they are there for you really isn't...